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To be honest, I do not remember when I first met Dawn Summers. It was some time between August 1997 and May 2000. Yeah, wide span. I drank a lot of beer back then.
Dawn performed in the Law School Show at Columbia with us in the Spring of 2000, but I'm sure I would have met her before that. Because she's racist, however, she probably refused to talk to me. (It's true! Ask her about having her online poker account chat-banned for racist remarks. Or spend five minutes with her. Especially during the summer, when she race-baits other people by eating watermelon.)
Since those halcyon days at Columbia Law School Dawn and I have had many, many mis-adventures together. I say mis-adventures because, whenever Dawn Summers is involved in an outing, excursion or adventure, you can be sure that things will wind up hilariously wrong. The last time I was in NYC, we went to DiFara's to get pizza to bring back to a friend's apartment. A simple 10-minute drive for pizza turned into a 2-hour, multi-borough affair.
That's part of the Dawn Summers charm.
What I look for in the people I choose to associate with is positive qualities. People who try to build other up rather than break them down. People who enrich the lives of those around them rather than detract from them. People who are willing to give of themselves to others in response to what others give them. After all, the best part of living can be other people -- but only if you spend time with the right sort of person. Life's too short to suffer fools, jerks, egotists or emotionally broken people.
Dawn Summers is none of those things. She has all of the best qualities you'd look for in a person, and she has them in spades (spades because she's black). She's one of the best of the best. She's smart, she's witty, she's quirky, she's quick to laugh. She's there when you need her and will give back at least as much as she gets. She'll never tear you down, but she'll point out to you when you've wandered into left field or when she thinks you're wrong. In short, she's a good friend.
Sure, Dawn has her faults. Her memory is long. Cross her once and you might not find yourself ever able to cross her again. But Dawn knows that she has her faults. She doesn't pretend they're not there. That's something that you can only respect in a person: a person who is secure enough in themselves to say "This is who I am. I am not perfect, but that's fine."
One of my faults is that I'm a terrible gift-giver. To be sure, Dawn Summers loves to open gifts. She'd much rather get a box set of Glee that she can hug, rub all over her body and pop in the DVD player than some lame feel-good thing like a contribution on her behalf to the Human Fund or some sort of happy-birthday-tribute post. But I'm fine with my faults too.
This year I told Dawn that I'd give her the gift of my attendance with her at the Liberace Museum in Vegas while she looked for hideous Liberace sneakers. The truth is that getting to spend time with a good friend like Dawn is really a gift to myself (told you I'm terrible at giving gifts). When I realized that, I thought I'd have to do something really personally repulsive and buy her a pair of those hideous sneakers she loves so much. Then I figured, what the heck, I could give her some links to her blogs and her Twitter account and that would make her pretty damn happy. Not as happy as a Glee box set or Liberace sneakers, but I'm willing to come in 2nd, or 3rd, or 15th place on this one.
And so, on this the day of her daughter's wedding, I hope that her first child is a manly one. Happy Birthday Dawn Summers! Enjoy the protection of the birthday force field.
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